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February 2, 2009

I have almost no time to write, and I’m exhausted right now…I just wanted to say that my father died today.

I made it home in time to spend some time with him, and though he was not able to open his eyes, I think he knew I was there and I had the chance to say goodbye.  The funeral is Friday…If anyone needs details, leave a message and I’ll get the info to you.

Update: Everything is going well here…We had the wake yesterday and more than 100 people came…full house.  Many, many thanks to the Cain family!  You guys are great!  Thank you for sending the food to us!  We brought it to the funeral home and ate it all.  It was the perfect thing.

Funeral this morning ay 11.  David and I are both singing at the service and my sister is reading…actually, everybody, immediate family and long time friends of my father,  is doing something…If you are praying, please pray that we perform our duties well and with grace.

Update Sunday Feb 8 Just thought I would say that Tim and I are back home in Arlington.  The funeral and graveside services were really well done…My brothers, Richard and Edward, a couple of cousins, and a couple of my father’s oldest friends were pall bearers, my sister, Mary Catherine,  read the prayers of the faithful beautifully, Brian and Larry (Grandchildren) read from scripture, and David sang the recessional and I sang the communion song.  At the cemetery, there was a military honor guard.  Taps were played…it was, by far, the best rendition of taps I have ever heard.  Then the flag of the United States was presented to my mother in such a dignified manner and with so much respect that I was left breathless.

We were overwhelmed by the attendance at the services because of the distances traveled by all.  The funeral procession was about 23 cars, and it was a 90 min ride.  Afterward we went to a local restaurant for a meal and the chance to tell stories.  It was wonderful to see family and friends whom I have not seen in so long…

There are no words to express how we are right now…Tim and I have each  just lost a parent within 6 weeks…We cry a lot…often together…it is a good thing, I think…The world seems different and strange without my father here…I miss him.

12 Comments leave one →
  1. February 2, 2009 10:08 pm

    So sorry. We’re praying. What a year.

  2. February 3, 2009 9:18 am

    Peter, thanks for the kind words and prayers. Would you mind sending an email to the folks in home group and Nneka and tell them?
    Since Friday is the day of the funeral, and also my birthday, I would really like you, and all, to pray that the Lord will give me peace and a sense of celebration or happiness. Not just for this day, but as I will have this as an anniversary always, I would love to have a supernatural sense of peace and a special time of remembering my father and all he has meant to me in the years to come.

  3. Nneka permalink
    February 3, 2009 10:24 am

    Got P’s email. So sorry to hear about your dad. I’m glad you were able to be there though. Was thinking about you just this morning. Figured something had come up, never imagined this. Will be praying. Love to you and Tim.

  4. Martha permalink
    February 3, 2009 9:39 pm


    May you His peace be yours now, even as you grieve, and handle the details. May His light shine through you and may He comfort you during this time of upprooting.

    I am praying for you and Tim and the rest of your family.

  5. Scott and Angela permalink
    February 3, 2009 11:06 pm

    Hi Liz, We are all so very sorry. It has been a tough year. We would like to send something to the house in New Jersey–can you send us the address?

  6. February 4, 2009 10:02 am

    Hi Nneka, Martha, and Scott and Angela,
    Thanks so much for your words of comfort. It is a very long week. Angela, I’ll call you later today with the address…
    Must go…fix breakfast etc…

    Martha…Hope you see this… Are you free for lunch at the Sunflower on your birthday next Wednesday?

  7. Mary permalink
    February 4, 2009 3:25 pm

    Our prayers are with you.


  8. February 4, 2009 7:28 pm

    Mary, We can feel the love from you and the whole Cain family…We love you!

  9. angela permalink
    February 5, 2009 10:51 pm

    Happy birthday Liz. Why not start a tradition on your birthday and honor your dad by doing something that you both enjoyed; a food to eat, a movie to watch, etc. He will be there in spirit enjoying it with you. Sad thoughts will not benefit either of you but happy thoughts…. now thats a gift.

    Prayers, hugs and blessings to your family

  10. February 8, 2009 8:44 pm

    Hi Angela, We are home…thanks for your thoughts…I wonder how it will be in a year at the anniversary…I hope to be able to get to a place of celebration again…at this point, I’m not sure how…it is too soon, and I hope I can find joy at my birthday again.

  11. Martha permalink
    February 24, 2009 1:19 pm

    Dear Liz,

    I hope this finds you well on this sunny, brisk day. Tim said you have an intense amount of work to do with vague parameters. We are praying for you.

  12. Dean permalink
    February 27, 2009 10:32 am


    I’m so sorry about the loss of your Dad. Your description of the funneral was, in itself, a nice tribute to him.

    Clearly he was loved by many friends.

    — Dean

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